Mystery or Miracle

I have never had a good opinion on horoscopes and astrology. But I do, actually, strongly believe in destiny. Whatever is destined will happen for sure and whatever happens is always for good is my perception towards life and future. And I accept whole heartedly, that this perception evolved and wasn’t an overnight enlightenment.

Arranged marriage – seems to be a mystery for many people. But, I would address it as a miracle rather than using the term mystery. Even if it is mysterious, it is for sure in the happy sense.

I had been in the matrimony market for close to 2 years. Day in – day out, the talks at home would be only about calls received, interests sent, horoscopes given for match, horoscopes received from astrologer etc. It was a troublesome period for all of us. It was a stressful, painful, weird, awkward and irritating period.

And, one fine day, it happened.

Choooomantar...!

My mom called me during my office hours and said, she had received an interest-message from a guy who was registered in a leading matrimony site. I was just more than uninterested and told her that I would see it when I got back home. I approved it on the spot but was hesitant about a positive response from the other side. We spoke over the phone to break the ice and later met in the presence of our parents, on a Saturday, in a temple. The horoscope matching happened and succeeded after a lot of twists. And 4 weeks later, I was engaged to him. In a month, my two year struggle came to an end.

Two states – a very successful novel by Chetan bhagat. The book explains the complications of love marriages in India. But I personally feel that, ‘complications’ apply to arranged marriages as well. Though, arranged marriages have been customized and moulded as per current trends, the complexities are still manifold.

Starting from the likes, dislikes, perceptions, views of the couple, everything – every single thing – is placed abruptly on the table – like a shuffled pack of cards. Every card is like an unseen, unknown angle. As days pass, each member in the family understands these angles.

Such a complicated phase..!

Choooomantar...!

What if these angles are all the same between both the families?

What if there are no complexities?

No unknown perspectives?

No unhandled exceptions?

No unseen differences?
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What are such twists called?

Mystery? Miracle?