“Bye..!”
She cut the call and put the mobile aside.
Tears started rolling down her cheeks. She was hurt – very badly, deeply. That night, the fight was the most unexpected. All was fine till a few minutes back but ended up in a mishap. She wasn’t weeping, but tears were flowing down her cheeks like a river - Her heart was paining badly. She closed her eyes and lied down in her bed.
It had been more than three years since they had become such close friends – sharing every single thing that left in impression in their minds, being together during thick and thin, understanding each others positives, negatives, problems, likes, dislikes, needs, family, friends etc. The similarity in their thought process had made it very easy for them to have become very close within very few days of contact. They had known each other for more than 15 years as a neighbour, a person belonging to the next class, a batch mate and a competitor. They had always considered each other as rivalries, be any matter for that reason.
One fine day she had found him to be closer than her closest friends. He had come from no where and had become the most necessary part of her life’s schedule. The same must have been his feeling also; she found it all in the flow of time. There had been many fights and many sleepless nights after the fights. Similarly there were many sorry statements, many sweet lies, many blank messages or calls carrying the after effect of the fights to a state of nothing. The consequences of the fight had always made them feel that fights do bring hearts closer. The current mishap could be just another one, she felt. She desperately wanted it to be a passing cloud.
She couldn’t stop herself from calling him. She located his number from her recent call list and was about to call him, when there was an incoming call from him. She immediately attended it but was not sure whether it was a continuation of the previous call or was a “put an end to the fight” call.
“Sorry for calling in such a weird time.” He said. She looked into the clock. It had been more than two hours since she had fought with him. Lost in his thoughts, she had lost track of the time.
“It’s ok. I wasn’t sleeping. To be precise, I was about to call you.” She said.
There was pin drop silence for few seconds. “I’m sorry”, they said in one tone.
A heartfelt smile cropped upon her face. She was sure that he was also feeling light by then..!
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Thursday, August 12, 2010
Looking Back
That day, was a very special day for many people there – they were joining a great company and were employed in their early twenties..!
They were going to have cash for themselves; they were going to reduce the burden on the shoulders of their parents; they were going to keep their first step in the path of their career, to say, a journey of thousand miles. A very few of them were alone while most of them had already formed groups as they belonged to the same place or college or they were their friend’s friend. But none of them knew that, that day was the beginning for a “Golden Period” in their life.
Having been seated in their respective classes, they looked around with a usual weird feeling of being with people whom they have never been with before. With respect to the fact that, every step in career is prefixed and suffixed by learning, both technical and non-technical, people in the faculty levels walked in and kept them occupied. Unusually, there were two faculties who could mingle with them completely. There rooted the first seed of friendship. Trying to get to know each other, they started asking the names of people who were sitting around them. As usual, this was initiated by one of the faculties and taken ahead by people who couldn’t shut their mouth for more than few seconds – famously known as chatter boxes. They played games which helped them, know themselves and people around them better. The bonding between the hearts kept thickening and the garden of friendship by then had 36 +2 plants deeply rooted, not in soil, but in the emotions and thought process of the people.
They learnt more from the non-technical sessions. The technical sessions went absolutely without much learning and they spent it all just by admiring the faculty, who had the world’s best smile. The non-technical sessions and the faculty helped them build their creativity and their emotional stability. As days passed, the friendship led to the creation of lot other relationships among them – brotherly, motherly etc. The weekend outings had added more spice and flavor. The maggi and the cup of horlicks from a roadside shop had become a part and parcel of their lives. Thanks to the accommodation that was provided, this kept them all together and enabled late evening meetings and dinning possible. Hats off, to the technology which kept them together even after they had to part. The garden of friendship had blossomed flowers by then and was vivid and attractive. It all happened at the ILP at Trivandrum for the T-07 Zealots, the first batch of 2009. Our heartfelt thanks to Dhanya and Ambu who made our lives at ILP very meaningful. The beauty of friendship is that it blooms among people who have never met before, who have different tastes, who belong to different habitats, who are of different age groups and who have different needs to be catered.
“Friendship is a not just a word, not only a relationship. It is a silent promise which says, I was, I am and I will be, with you forever”. – Anonymous.
Not that we did not learn anything in the technical sessions. Dedicating my Object Oriented view about friendship to Dhanya. Friendship is the base class for all the relationship classes. The base class has attributes and member functions inherited from affection, courtesy and trust, which is multiple inheritance. The friendship class pointer can hold objects of all derived relationship classes. Unless we override the friendship attributes and member functions, there cannot be any misunderstanding. So beautiful is friendship, which will neither find faults nor brood over wrongs. Long live friendship..!
They were going to have cash for themselves; they were going to reduce the burden on the shoulders of their parents; they were going to keep their first step in the path of their career, to say, a journey of thousand miles. A very few of them were alone while most of them had already formed groups as they belonged to the same place or college or they were their friend’s friend. But none of them knew that, that day was the beginning for a “Golden Period” in their life.
Having been seated in their respective classes, they looked around with a usual weird feeling of being with people whom they have never been with before. With respect to the fact that, every step in career is prefixed and suffixed by learning, both technical and non-technical, people in the faculty levels walked in and kept them occupied. Unusually, there were two faculties who could mingle with them completely. There rooted the first seed of friendship. Trying to get to know each other, they started asking the names of people who were sitting around them. As usual, this was initiated by one of the faculties and taken ahead by people who couldn’t shut their mouth for more than few seconds – famously known as chatter boxes. They played games which helped them, know themselves and people around them better. The bonding between the hearts kept thickening and the garden of friendship by then had 36 +2 plants deeply rooted, not in soil, but in the emotions and thought process of the people.
They learnt more from the non-technical sessions. The technical sessions went absolutely without much learning and they spent it all just by admiring the faculty, who had the world’s best smile. The non-technical sessions and the faculty helped them build their creativity and their emotional stability. As days passed, the friendship led to the creation of lot other relationships among them – brotherly, motherly etc. The weekend outings had added more spice and flavor. The maggi and the cup of horlicks from a roadside shop had become a part and parcel of their lives. Thanks to the accommodation that was provided, this kept them all together and enabled late evening meetings and dinning possible. Hats off, to the technology which kept them together even after they had to part. The garden of friendship had blossomed flowers by then and was vivid and attractive. It all happened at the ILP at Trivandrum for the T-07 Zealots, the first batch of 2009. Our heartfelt thanks to Dhanya and Ambu who made our lives at ILP very meaningful. The beauty of friendship is that it blooms among people who have never met before, who have different tastes, who belong to different habitats, who are of different age groups and who have different needs to be catered.
“Friendship is a not just a word, not only a relationship. It is a silent promise which says, I was, I am and I will be, with you forever”. – Anonymous.
Not that we did not learn anything in the technical sessions. Dedicating my Object Oriented view about friendship to Dhanya. Friendship is the base class for all the relationship classes. The base class has attributes and member functions inherited from affection, courtesy and trust, which is multiple inheritance. The friendship class pointer can hold objects of all derived relationship classes. Unless we override the friendship attributes and member functions, there cannot be any misunderstanding. So beautiful is friendship, which will neither find faults nor brood over wrongs. Long live friendship..!
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Something useful..
Like everyone, I was also not in a mood to work that day. It was very obvious because, it was raining heavily outside and the view from my cube was really mind blowing. Being tea time and having decided to take a break, (which was the only thing that I was doing since morning) I walked out of my ODC and down to the canteen – my favorite place. I ordered for maggi (the only food I eat when it is raining outside), paid for it and sat in a place where I could see the road below.
The view from my window in the ODC would comprise of the tall buildings, decorated building tops, dark gray clouds and the sky. But the place I sat that day gave me a view of the road sides. Due to the heavy rain since morning, water was flowing down the lane, like a small tributary to a river. Just outside the gates there were so many autos parked. There were a few auto drivers who were busy cleaning their autos with the water that was flowing down. But every now and then people used to walk out of office, speak to the auto drivers and get in and gone was the auto. The security people at the gates were busy checking the bags of the people who were leaving or entering office.
Something pricked my heart and I felt a bit uneasy there. I finished off the maggi and walked to my ODC. I started reviewing the document that I had made as a design reference for a new change requirement in my project. But still I could feel that I was very slow and sluggish at my work. Having decided not to leave office without doing something useful for that day, I opened a new document and started typing.
“Like everyone, I was also not in a mood to work that day. It was very obvious because....”
The view from my window in the ODC would comprise of the tall buildings, decorated building tops, dark gray clouds and the sky. But the place I sat that day gave me a view of the road sides. Due to the heavy rain since morning, water was flowing down the lane, like a small tributary to a river. Just outside the gates there were so many autos parked. There were a few auto drivers who were busy cleaning their autos with the water that was flowing down. But every now and then people used to walk out of office, speak to the auto drivers and get in and gone was the auto. The security people at the gates were busy checking the bags of the people who were leaving or entering office.
Something pricked my heart and I felt a bit uneasy there. I finished off the maggi and walked to my ODC. I started reviewing the document that I had made as a design reference for a new change requirement in my project. But still I could feel that I was very slow and sluggish at my work. Having decided not to leave office without doing something useful for that day, I opened a new document and started typing.
“Like everyone, I was also not in a mood to work that day. It was very obvious because....”
Monday, June 7, 2010
Rains
I hadn’t had good rainy times at Chennai, as every resident would feel. Coimbatore used to get rains in December and it used to get really cold at nights and early mornings but used to be hot during the days. We, hostelites, used to have fun in the rain as we were staying very close to the terrace. The entire gang loved kuzhi paniyaram and veg-roll, which we used to get near the IMS. Though the route that led to the IMS was a bit scary, the destination and the outcome looked so yummy and tasty that it enabled us to move towards it.
Rains were a part of schedule at Trivandrum. I was at Trivandrum during the later part of the year, where we were experiencing all seasons in one day: Spring in the morning, summer in the noon, autumn in the evening and winter at nights. It used to be so nice to have hot spicy maggi with a cup of horlicks, in a small shop that was close to our ILP hostel. Every member of Zealots would have visited the shop at least once during our stay there. Though the shop looked unhygienic at the first sight, it had become our favorite place to hangout.
Yesterday night at 11:30 pm, after a long monotonous Sunday, I wasn’t feeling sleepy and I was busy gazing at the sky. I was lying down in my bed and dint miss out the clouds that were getting accumulated in the sky. I was pretty sure that it was going to pour down heavily in a few minutes. I removed the clothes that were hanging out for drying, during when I got a clear view of the entire sky. Unusually, it was bright pink in color with not even a single star visible. It looked so amazing..! Cool wind started blowing through the windows which were wide open in the room, as per my request. It just swept me off to the dream world and I must have dozed off within minutes, as I don’t remember anything else that happened after that..!
The climate was so good today morning too. I made it a point to take bath in normal tap water. I boiled milk, made some coffee for myself and sat to get ready, but couldn’t take my eyes off the sky which was still cloudy and was drizzling beautifully.
Nature is indeed beautiful, lovely, inspiring, attractive and magical..!
Rains were a part of schedule at Trivandrum. I was at Trivandrum during the later part of the year, where we were experiencing all seasons in one day: Spring in the morning, summer in the noon, autumn in the evening and winter at nights. It used to be so nice to have hot spicy maggi with a cup of horlicks, in a small shop that was close to our ILP hostel. Every member of Zealots would have visited the shop at least once during our stay there. Though the shop looked unhygienic at the first sight, it had become our favorite place to hangout.
Yesterday night at 11:30 pm, after a long monotonous Sunday, I wasn’t feeling sleepy and I was busy gazing at the sky. I was lying down in my bed and dint miss out the clouds that were getting accumulated in the sky. I was pretty sure that it was going to pour down heavily in a few minutes. I removed the clothes that were hanging out for drying, during when I got a clear view of the entire sky. Unusually, it was bright pink in color with not even a single star visible. It looked so amazing..! Cool wind started blowing through the windows which were wide open in the room, as per my request. It just swept me off to the dream world and I must have dozed off within minutes, as I don’t remember anything else that happened after that..!
The climate was so good today morning too. I made it a point to take bath in normal tap water. I boiled milk, made some coffee for myself and sat to get ready, but couldn’t take my eyes off the sky which was still cloudy and was drizzling beautifully.
Nature is indeed beautiful, lovely, inspiring, attractive and magical..!
Friday, May 21, 2010
Think and Innovate..
The need of the hour – Renewable energy.
We have been hearing this statement from our class six. It is more than a decade and this wave is still not down, but the necessity for the same has increased exponentially. Now belonging to the section of the society which can change things, I guess it is our responsibility to contribute something for the welfare of our mother nature.
We are on constant awareness programs insisting on renewable energy, saving water, flora and fauna etc. But do we take things seriously? How many of us switch of our desktops at the EOD? How many of us use less water while washing our mugs or make sure that the mug doesn’t dry up so that it would be easy for us to wash with less water? How many of us switch off the fans in the lifts? How many of us think before we print something?
Apart from taking these things to our heart and acting accordingly, we could do one more thing. We can take a step ahead and help the company to take initiatives in an innovative way. An idea cropped up in my mind recently. We have shredders to dispose critical or project specific confidential documents. Pretty sure, there is a lot of paper waste that is getting accumulated everyday. There are other bio-degradable materials which could be used for the same. Being in a company of 1.46+ Lakh employees, there is lot of Bio waste that is getting collected. Instead of accumulating them and disposing them at intervals, we could use them up in such a way, which will help us too. We could collect them in an underground sump or tank and use it for Bio-Mass plant. This could be used during weekends for lighting, when the power consumption is low. It is obvious that, we take pride belonging to our companies. Let the company also take pride of having us. We are the source of all innovation and we can use our thought process to help nature, by which we are actually helping ourselves..!
We have been hearing this statement from our class six. It is more than a decade and this wave is still not down, but the necessity for the same has increased exponentially. Now belonging to the section of the society which can change things, I guess it is our responsibility to contribute something for the welfare of our mother nature.
We are on constant awareness programs insisting on renewable energy, saving water, flora and fauna etc. But do we take things seriously? How many of us switch of our desktops at the EOD? How many of us use less water while washing our mugs or make sure that the mug doesn’t dry up so that it would be easy for us to wash with less water? How many of us switch off the fans in the lifts? How many of us think before we print something?
Apart from taking these things to our heart and acting accordingly, we could do one more thing. We can take a step ahead and help the company to take initiatives in an innovative way. An idea cropped up in my mind recently. We have shredders to dispose critical or project specific confidential documents. Pretty sure, there is a lot of paper waste that is getting accumulated everyday. There are other bio-degradable materials which could be used for the same. Being in a company of 1.46+ Lakh employees, there is lot of Bio waste that is getting collected. Instead of accumulating them and disposing them at intervals, we could use them up in such a way, which will help us too. We could collect them in an underground sump or tank and use it for Bio-Mass plant. This could be used during weekends for lighting, when the power consumption is low. It is obvious that, we take pride belonging to our companies. Let the company also take pride of having us. We are the source of all innovation and we can use our thought process to help nature, by which we are actually helping ourselves..!
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Root Causes..
I was walking out of office, that day. I had a bit of extra luggage – On Call Laptop, On Call Mobile and my new Photon+. My roommate, Priya had mailed me saying that she had forgotten her key and her mobile at home and will be waiting for me to leave office as she was very hungry. I had mailed her back saying that I would be leaving in 15 minutes, @ 7:45 PM. When I was about to leave, I was requested to give an update. When my work was done, it was 8:35 PM, and I had totally forgotten about my roommate.
Unusually, I started walking down the stairs than taking the lift, and just then near the ground floor I slipped a few stairs. I was unhurt by my new pair of sandals tore in the sides. I managed to walk with them all the way down the path. I submitted my Laptop pass to the security and walked up to the auto stand. Priya called me then, enquiring where I was. Realizing my fault, I promised to be there in sometime. As usual, none of the autos were ready to drop to my place which was actually close by. Making up my mind, I walked all the way to the bus stop which took me 15 minutes and my stomach had started growling in hunger. There I found a few autos and took a chance enquiring as I had no change except for a 100 rupee note. If I had tried taking a bus, the conductor would have kicked me out. Finally, I got into an auto to my place. Time was 9:05 PM.
When I got down, I gave the auto wala, the only note I had – 100 Rupee. I shook his head and said, “Chuta deejiye mam”. The amount on the meter was 16. I answered with a baffled reaction “Sorry bhaiya, Mere paas nahi hai”. He gave me a small smile, said “tk, nahi chahiye”, started the engine and left. I stood there dumbstruck..!
I walked up the flat and reached my apartment and saw a note signed by Priya, “Will be back soon”. I smiled to myself, opened the apartment, left my things in place and decided to get my sandals stitched. I reached the closest market area which was just a minute’s walk. Hoping to see a cobbler at that time, I was just keeping my fingers crossed. I found one soon and gave him my sandals for repairing. He said that the sole was a bit thick and stitching the entire sandal would cost 30. I felt that it was a bit costly. But not in a mood to bargain, I accepted it. Within a few minutes, my sandals were back in form. Satisfied with the repairing made I gave him “The 100 rupee note” I had. He gave back 80 and said that, it wasn’t that thick as he expected it to be. A thoughtful smile cropped up on my face..!
The root causes of present happenings are, a very long way back in our lives, than they are thought to be..!
Unusually, I started walking down the stairs than taking the lift, and just then near the ground floor I slipped a few stairs. I was unhurt by my new pair of sandals tore in the sides. I managed to walk with them all the way down the path. I submitted my Laptop pass to the security and walked up to the auto stand. Priya called me then, enquiring where I was. Realizing my fault, I promised to be there in sometime. As usual, none of the autos were ready to drop to my place which was actually close by. Making up my mind, I walked all the way to the bus stop which took me 15 minutes and my stomach had started growling in hunger. There I found a few autos and took a chance enquiring as I had no change except for a 100 rupee note. If I had tried taking a bus, the conductor would have kicked me out. Finally, I got into an auto to my place. Time was 9:05 PM.
When I got down, I gave the auto wala, the only note I had – 100 Rupee. I shook his head and said, “Chuta deejiye mam”. The amount on the meter was 16. I answered with a baffled reaction “Sorry bhaiya, Mere paas nahi hai”. He gave me a small smile, said “tk, nahi chahiye”, started the engine and left. I stood there dumbstruck..!
I walked up the flat and reached my apartment and saw a note signed by Priya, “Will be back soon”. I smiled to myself, opened the apartment, left my things in place and decided to get my sandals stitched. I reached the closest market area which was just a minute’s walk. Hoping to see a cobbler at that time, I was just keeping my fingers crossed. I found one soon and gave him my sandals for repairing. He said that the sole was a bit thick and stitching the entire sandal would cost 30. I felt that it was a bit costly. But not in a mood to bargain, I accepted it. Within a few minutes, my sandals were back in form. Satisfied with the repairing made I gave him “The 100 rupee note” I had. He gave back 80 and said that, it wasn’t that thick as he expected it to be. A thoughtful smile cropped up on my face..!
The root causes of present happenings are, a very long way back in our lives, than they are thought to be..!
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
My View..
I had been receiving a few mails in the last week which were about handling a situation. This article is a consolidated version of all those mails. Hope you enjoy..
All of us have heard about the 10/90 rule which says – You don’t have control on 10% of the things that are happening to you, but the remaining 90% depends on how you react to that 10%. For a situation, we can either respond or react. Reactions are instinctive and responses are intellectual. In between the stimuli (what happens to us) and the response (what happens through us), if there is no gap, it is a reaction. If there is a gap between the two, we could think and contemplate and respond thoughtfully, ending up in winning the situation. What disturbs us is not the traffic jam but our inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam.
Intellectual handling doesn’t mean that we have to be thoughtful about everything that is happening to us. If that is the case, we will miss all the fun in life. Actually, we will be missing the greatest fun, the Life itself. We are like prepaid cards and our validity has been already decided, while we were activated. We need to live life to the fullest of our souls as life is a one time present and we must know to extract the utmost fun out of it. Fun doesn’t mean that we could break the rules of living. Giving our 100% in anything, will always make us feel proud. But, this mustn’t be stressing up our living. We are not here to work our lives out and die in stress. Life is like a garden. We are surrounded by flowers, thorns, mud, grass, dew drops, stones and lot other constituents. It is in our hands to either enjoy or complain about the variety, because Change is the only thing that keeps us going. Without change, Living would have become uneventful or monotonous. Life is like a lemon and spoon game. It doesn’t make any sense, if we come first in the race without the lemon. Lemon here comprises of our family, health and the zeal to survive.
Take chances..
Tell the truth..
Date someone totally wrong for u..
Learn to say no..
Spend all your money..
Fall in love..
Feel the first kiss..
Get to know someone in random..
Say I love u to someone in life..
Be mean..
Make fun of people..
Sing out loud..
Laugh at a stupid joke.. Cry..
Take revenge..
Apologise..
Laugh when you fall..
Get into a fight..
Tell someone how much they mean to you..
Tell that idiot how he/she hurts you..
Let someone know what they are missing..
Abuse someone who deserves it..
Sit alone, watch the rain and cry..
Laugh till your stomach hurts..
Dance even if you suck at it..
Pose stupidly for pictures..
Give someone a hug when they need it..
Make sure you get one when u do..
Act like a kid..
Jump up and down..
Live life and love it.. Because life is just once..
All of us have heard about the 10/90 rule which says – You don’t have control on 10% of the things that are happening to you, but the remaining 90% depends on how you react to that 10%. For a situation, we can either respond or react. Reactions are instinctive and responses are intellectual. In between the stimuli (what happens to us) and the response (what happens through us), if there is no gap, it is a reaction. If there is a gap between the two, we could think and contemplate and respond thoughtfully, ending up in winning the situation. What disturbs us is not the traffic jam but our inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam.
Intellectual handling doesn’t mean that we have to be thoughtful about everything that is happening to us. If that is the case, we will miss all the fun in life. Actually, we will be missing the greatest fun, the Life itself. We are like prepaid cards and our validity has been already decided, while we were activated. We need to live life to the fullest of our souls as life is a one time present and we must know to extract the utmost fun out of it. Fun doesn’t mean that we could break the rules of living. Giving our 100% in anything, will always make us feel proud. But, this mustn’t be stressing up our living. We are not here to work our lives out and die in stress. Life is like a garden. We are surrounded by flowers, thorns, mud, grass, dew drops, stones and lot other constituents. It is in our hands to either enjoy or complain about the variety, because Change is the only thing that keeps us going. Without change, Living would have become uneventful or monotonous. Life is like a lemon and spoon game. It doesn’t make any sense, if we come first in the race without the lemon. Lemon here comprises of our family, health and the zeal to survive.
Take chances..
Tell the truth..
Date someone totally wrong for u..
Learn to say no..
Spend all your money..
Fall in love..
Feel the first kiss..
Get to know someone in random..
Say I love u to someone in life..
Be mean..
Make fun of people..
Sing out loud..
Laugh at a stupid joke.. Cry..
Take revenge..
Apologise..
Laugh when you fall..
Get into a fight..
Tell someone how much they mean to you..
Tell that idiot how he/she hurts you..
Let someone know what they are missing..
Abuse someone who deserves it..
Sit alone, watch the rain and cry..
Laugh till your stomach hurts..
Dance even if you suck at it..
Pose stupidly for pictures..
Give someone a hug when they need it..
Make sure you get one when u do..
Act like a kid..
Jump up and down..
Live life and love it.. Because life is just once..
Thursday, May 6, 2010
Trust..
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved” - George MacDonald.
It is very true that, a smile is the way a relationship begins. But for the relationship to stand through tough times, pain and struggles, something more is needed: Trust. “You can always love the person whom you trust, but you can never love the person whom you don’t” – a simple but a very clear quote to establish the importance of believing your partner. Trust is the platform on which any relationship is built upon. Trust doesn’t mean being honest or not lying. It is the vibration that runs in our mind during an emotional situation. This vibration doesn’t subside even when we come to know that our partner is lying to us. But the situation would be handled with a smile on the lips and a new wave of love at heart. And a good thing is that, this vibration is very much inducible..!
Trust and be trust worthy..!
It is very true that, a smile is the way a relationship begins. But for the relationship to stand through tough times, pain and struggles, something more is needed: Trust. “You can always love the person whom you trust, but you can never love the person whom you don’t” – a simple but a very clear quote to establish the importance of believing your partner. Trust is the platform on which any relationship is built upon. Trust doesn’t mean being honest or not lying. It is the vibration that runs in our mind during an emotional situation. This vibration doesn’t subside even when we come to know that our partner is lying to us. But the situation would be handled with a smile on the lips and a new wave of love at heart. And a good thing is that, this vibration is very much inducible..!
Trust and be trust worthy..!
Monday, May 3, 2010
Celebrate your Uniqueness..
A plum once said, “Just because a banana lover came by, I converted myself into a banana. Unfortunately, his taste changed after a few months and so I became an orange. When he said I was bitter I became an apple, but he went in search of grapes. Yielding to the opinions of so many people, I have changed so many times that I no more know who I am. How I wish I had remained a plum and waited for a plum lover.”
Just because a group of people do not accept you as you are, there is no necessity for you to strip yourself of your originality. You need to think good of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate. Never stop down in order to gain recognition. Never let go of your true self to win a relationship. In the long run, you will regret that you traded your greatest glory - your uniqueness, for momentary validation. The group that does not accept you the way you are is not your world.
What water can do, gasoline cannot and what copper can, gold cannot. The fragility of the ant enables it to move and the rigidity of the tree enables it to stay rooted. Everything and everybody has been designed with a proportion of uniqueness to serve a purpose that we can fulfil only by being our unique self. You as you alone can serve your purpose and I as I alone can serve my purpose. You are here to be you.. just you.
There came a time when you were required on this planet and hence you were sent. Let us be the best we can be. Don't miss yourself and let the world not miss you. In the history of the universe, there has been nobody like you and to the infinite of time to come; there will be no one like you. Existence should have loved you so much that it broke the mould after making you, so that another of your kind will never get repeated.
You are rare..
You are a wonder..
You are the original..
You are a masterpiece.. Your Master's piece..
Celebrate your Uniqueness..!
It’s ok to have fears
It’s ok to make mistakes
It’s ok to Give up on something
It’s ok to be Quiet sometimes
It’s ok to Cry when everyone laughs
It’s ok to laugh at a joke if you liked it
It’s ok to love the one who may not love you
It’s ok if you dance like a duck gone wild
It’s ok if you sing like a frog gone wilder than the duck
If being what you are, makes you happy
Its Great TO BE YOURSELF!
Just because a group of people do not accept you as you are, there is no necessity for you to strip yourself of your originality. You need to think good of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate. Never stop down in order to gain recognition. Never let go of your true self to win a relationship. In the long run, you will regret that you traded your greatest glory - your uniqueness, for momentary validation. The group that does not accept you the way you are is not your world.
What water can do, gasoline cannot and what copper can, gold cannot. The fragility of the ant enables it to move and the rigidity of the tree enables it to stay rooted. Everything and everybody has been designed with a proportion of uniqueness to serve a purpose that we can fulfil only by being our unique self. You as you alone can serve your purpose and I as I alone can serve my purpose. You are here to be you.. just you.
There came a time when you were required on this planet and hence you were sent. Let us be the best we can be. Don't miss yourself and let the world not miss you. In the history of the universe, there has been nobody like you and to the infinite of time to come; there will be no one like you. Existence should have loved you so much that it broke the mould after making you, so that another of your kind will never get repeated.
You are rare..
You are a wonder..
You are the original..
You are a masterpiece.. Your Master's piece..
Celebrate your Uniqueness..!
It’s ok to have fears
It’s ok to make mistakes
It’s ok to Give up on something
It’s ok to be Quiet sometimes
It’s ok to Cry when everyone laughs
It’s ok to laugh at a joke if you liked it
It’s ok to love the one who may not love you
It’s ok if you dance like a duck gone wild
It’s ok if you sing like a frog gone wilder than the duck
If being what you are, makes you happy
Its Great TO BE YOURSELF!
Monday, April 19, 2010
A visit to Asha Daan, Missionaries of Charity
We, the Zealots, T-07 Batch of ILP, had visited the Nirmala Shishu Bhavan at Palayam, Trivandrum, during our ILP training, which was a part of the Missionaries of Charity, begun by Mother Teresa. The visit happened to be on Diwali 09, so we had got lot of sweets and crackers for the kids there. The visit turned out to be a successful one and had a mind blowing impact on all of us.
During the last week of March 2010, from no where, one fine morning, one of our batch mates, called for a group chat and left a word saying that, it had been a long time since we had made such an event happen and must arrange such an event at everyone’s place. Making up my mind, I collected the details of Missionaries of Charity at Mumbai, spoke to the Mother, collected all the necessary details and left a mail to my entire team asking about their suggestions. There was great response from my team. The second week of March was the collection period and we could make it up to Rs. 7400, in the form of cash and food coupons. We fixed our visit on 17th of April and asked one of our team mates, Reena mam, to get all the necessary stuff from Big Bazaar, as the coupons could be used only there. It was Prasad, Deepti, Kavitha, Deepak, Ujjal and me who finally made it upto Asha Daan on Saturday.
Asha Daan, is located at Byculla, Mumbai. It has around 400 inmates including kids in the age group of 2 to 8, HIV+ women with their kids, destitute women and men. The kids here are mostly physically and mentally challenged. The people who serve them are mostly from Bihar and Orissa, who had left their homes because of some problem or the other. There are around 12 nuns and rest all are supposed to be Orphans. The kids are absolutely challenged that they have to be fed all the meals for the day.
We had got baby food, oil, sugar, rice, dal and phenyl as per the request made by the Mother. We had got some cake too hoping to make up their craving for it. The excess cash of Rs 2000 was donated in the name of TCS, Powai to Asha Daan.
Below is a note that was seen at the entrance of the orphanage:
“Welcome to Asha Daan. Dear visitors and friends, we cherish you spending your time with us. Do not just hand down to us eatables, our appetite for lunch may be ruined. Give whatever you brought for us to the person in charge. And God bless you. We thank you for not taking photos, but you probably leave with our imprint in your heart. Do not show us pity, we are happy. If you doubt, then just ask us “Kaise hai?” and what you will hear will cheer you. Then, if you have come as a visitor, you will leave as a friend. Please come again. We love to keep in touch.”
It is really very moving to see the inmates answer “I am fine” when we ask them how they were. We are indeed very gifted. But most of us, including me, do not know the value of our lives. Lets live life king size with love, affection and contentment..!
During the last week of March 2010, from no where, one fine morning, one of our batch mates, called for a group chat and left a word saying that, it had been a long time since we had made such an event happen and must arrange such an event at everyone’s place. Making up my mind, I collected the details of Missionaries of Charity at Mumbai, spoke to the Mother, collected all the necessary details and left a mail to my entire team asking about their suggestions. There was great response from my team. The second week of March was the collection period and we could make it up to Rs. 7400, in the form of cash and food coupons. We fixed our visit on 17th of April and asked one of our team mates, Reena mam, to get all the necessary stuff from Big Bazaar, as the coupons could be used only there. It was Prasad, Deepti, Kavitha, Deepak, Ujjal and me who finally made it upto Asha Daan on Saturday.
Asha Daan, is located at Byculla, Mumbai. It has around 400 inmates including kids in the age group of 2 to 8, HIV+ women with their kids, destitute women and men. The kids here are mostly physically and mentally challenged. The people who serve them are mostly from Bihar and Orissa, who had left their homes because of some problem or the other. There are around 12 nuns and rest all are supposed to be Orphans. The kids are absolutely challenged that they have to be fed all the meals for the day.
We had got baby food, oil, sugar, rice, dal and phenyl as per the request made by the Mother. We had got some cake too hoping to make up their craving for it. The excess cash of Rs 2000 was donated in the name of TCS, Powai to Asha Daan.
Below is a note that was seen at the entrance of the orphanage:
“Welcome to Asha Daan. Dear visitors and friends, we cherish you spending your time with us. Do not just hand down to us eatables, our appetite for lunch may be ruined. Give whatever you brought for us to the person in charge. And God bless you. We thank you for not taking photos, but you probably leave with our imprint in your heart. Do not show us pity, we are happy. If you doubt, then just ask us “Kaise hai?” and what you will hear will cheer you. Then, if you have come as a visitor, you will leave as a friend. Please come again. We love to keep in touch.”
It is really very moving to see the inmates answer “I am fine” when we ask them how they were. We are indeed very gifted. But most of us, including me, do not know the value of our lives. Lets live life king size with love, affection and contentment..!
The evening with Sanjay..
16th April 2010, being the last day of the week, I seriously wanted to make a blog entry. Having no clue what to write, I finally made up my mind to write about the day’s events, though I was not very satisfied with my decision. At around 5 pm, we being the new joinees of AVIVA RAC were asked to assemble in the discussion room. Sanjay Pal – A higher grade person from UK, was supposed to meet us all. I got comments that he speaks, sorry, communicates with people really well and gives chocolates whenever he meets the new joinees. Both the comments being very catchy, I made up my mind to go for the meeting, not knowing that it is going to leave a great impact in me.
We had assembled in the discussion room, and were waiting for him. After sometime he made his entry. He was talking to us all in a manner as though he had known us for a long time. Actually, I had not even seen him before but had been getting his “Thoughts for the day” mail. It is a daily deed of mine to read and archive it. I would have been right under his nose if he were standing. But, fortunately he sat on the other side of the table. His profile was indeed very impressive, just like his name. He had a soulful smile, acknowledging sight, and a very professional presence. He looked very young when compared to his age. There were a few other things that stood in my mind – Golden color TCS pen, blue TCS scribbling pad, light blue stripped formal shirt and 2 mobile phones – one was the oldest or outdated model of nokia, and another looked like black berry. We were around 20 people in the room and he took all the pains to make a note of everything, every person said. He was able to leave a comment on what each person said. I understood that, he did have a great, varied pool of knowledge.
As the meeting went on, he started talking about his life with TCS, the rating patterns, the bell curve, facing challenges etc. The topic then switched to attaining success. He mentioned two ways of attaining ones dreams – polishing one self and getting magnetized. He made a very different formula for success.
DREAMS + AMBITIONS + POSITIVE ATTITUDE = SUCCESS
He said, “We, the TCSers, work from heart and not from brain. That’s why we belong to the so called TATA family. There are so many people around you, who want you to succeed, who become happy seeing your success and are always ready to help you out if you are in trouble. TATA believes in grinding one’s mindset and building a new one from the scratch. It is just like the Phoenix rising from its own ashes. This grinding process is necessary because, everyone sets their best in a very reachable distance, when that’s not the truth. The more you take effort, the more you stretch yourself, the more it pains - the more you move towards success. If you run the race for yourself, you mostly lose it. When you run it for a team, you win and make your team also to win. How much ever bad a situation could be, your positive attitude will get the spirit for you to go through it.”
He gave action items for few of us and also made a note of it and said he was very serious about it. He asked some input from us, and said, he did learn from every input he got. This meeting was scheduled, as his flight to London had got cancelled. Indeed it was our sheer luck, to get in touch with such a wonderful motivating person.
We had assembled in the discussion room, and were waiting for him. After sometime he made his entry. He was talking to us all in a manner as though he had known us for a long time. Actually, I had not even seen him before but had been getting his “Thoughts for the day” mail. It is a daily deed of mine to read and archive it. I would have been right under his nose if he were standing. But, fortunately he sat on the other side of the table. His profile was indeed very impressive, just like his name. He had a soulful smile, acknowledging sight, and a very professional presence. He looked very young when compared to his age. There were a few other things that stood in my mind – Golden color TCS pen, blue TCS scribbling pad, light blue stripped formal shirt and 2 mobile phones – one was the oldest or outdated model of nokia, and another looked like black berry. We were around 20 people in the room and he took all the pains to make a note of everything, every person said. He was able to leave a comment on what each person said. I understood that, he did have a great, varied pool of knowledge.
As the meeting went on, he started talking about his life with TCS, the rating patterns, the bell curve, facing challenges etc. The topic then switched to attaining success. He mentioned two ways of attaining ones dreams – polishing one self and getting magnetized. He made a very different formula for success.
DREAMS + AMBITIONS + POSITIVE ATTITUDE = SUCCESS
He said, “We, the TCSers, work from heart and not from brain. That’s why we belong to the so called TATA family. There are so many people around you, who want you to succeed, who become happy seeing your success and are always ready to help you out if you are in trouble. TATA believes in grinding one’s mindset and building a new one from the scratch. It is just like the Phoenix rising from its own ashes. This grinding process is necessary because, everyone sets their best in a very reachable distance, when that’s not the truth. The more you take effort, the more you stretch yourself, the more it pains - the more you move towards success. If you run the race for yourself, you mostly lose it. When you run it for a team, you win and make your team also to win. How much ever bad a situation could be, your positive attitude will get the spirit for you to go through it.”
He gave action items for few of us and also made a note of it and said he was very serious about it. He asked some input from us, and said, he did learn from every input he got. This meeting was scheduled, as his flight to London had got cancelled. Indeed it was our sheer luck, to get in touch with such a wonderful motivating person.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Learning Things - The Harder Way..
Evolution happened as man learned things from nature. This led to framing of what is called the tradition, culture, manners, DOs, Donts etc. But this learning dint happen in an easy way or quickly. Man learned things the harder way and as time passed.
Proofs & Lessons:
• Our parents used to ask us to write down the answers and practice before our exams and our teachers used to give us imposition. – Writing helps us to remember and recollect easily.
• Rules used to be hard for us to follow. – There are worse ones on the way.
• Friends used to get along within themselves and neglect you. – Learn to survive independently.
• We used to get lost in the crowd. – Anytime you will have to handle things single handedly.
• We used to expect a person to react to a situation in a particular way. But it would be totally different. – Expectations hurt.
There would be lots more pooling in your minds, but right now I am not able to think about other proofs. But learning things the harder way is always fruitful because, once you undergo the pain, when you undergo it again, it will not be as painful as it was. Do not break down, just keep going..!
Whenever it pains, just say to yourself:
The Darkest Hour Is Just Before The Dawn..! & Pain Is Not New To Me..!
Proofs & Lessons:
• Our parents used to ask us to write down the answers and practice before our exams and our teachers used to give us imposition. – Writing helps us to remember and recollect easily.
• Rules used to be hard for us to follow. – There are worse ones on the way.
• Friends used to get along within themselves and neglect you. – Learn to survive independently.
• We used to get lost in the crowd. – Anytime you will have to handle things single handedly.
• We used to expect a person to react to a situation in a particular way. But it would be totally different. – Expectations hurt.
There would be lots more pooling in your minds, but right now I am not able to think about other proofs. But learning things the harder way is always fruitful because, once you undergo the pain, when you undergo it again, it will not be as painful as it was. Do not break down, just keep going..!
Whenever it pains, just say to yourself:
The Darkest Hour Is Just Before The Dawn..! & Pain Is Not New To Me..!
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Life..
LIFE: Just a four letter word, but its one of the biggest gifts that anyone can earn for themselves. It has its own beautiful ways of teaching values. Life, is a teacher that teaches us with experiences. Not everybody has been able to live life king size, and it includes me too.
According to many people who know me, I had always been screwing up things, when it could have been a very smooth travel, if I had acted the other way. I always kept thinking why I had taken a particular decision.
Whenever I look back, I feel that My life, was really a very enthusiastic, vivid one till I scored a very high score in my twelfth standard. Being one among the school toppers, I was suggested to join one of the leading institutions for my Integrated Masters in Software Engineering. From then, it had been a much stressed living, as I was away from my loved ones. I was surviving all alone. But from day one I was out of home, Life had been teaching me something or the other. As I had told earlier, I started learning from my experiences.
I adapted myself to a new society, made new friends, built new relationships, tried to hold up with them, succeeded in a few and failed in most, understood people’s perspective, communicated, learnt and kept updating my knowledge repository with all that I got. With these inputs, I established my unique identity, or what is called my Individuality. Day by day, I found that my identity was getting shaped up, with the new experiences I had and lessons I learnt from them. One fine day, I decided to use up the repository I created for myself. I decided to make myself someone a bit better than an Emotional person. This was a very painful decision that would affect lot of preset things and people in my life. I took this risk as I felt that it would be something which I will need in a long run. And I understand that, this is a journey of thousand miles and I have just taken a few steps. My transformation looks very minimal from outside. But it is a very troublesome and heavy assignment for a person like me, who breaks down after a certain amount of blockage. I am very grateful, to lot of people, who walked into my life in some instance, left an impression in me and helped/are helping me through the transformation. Without them, even the few steps which I took would not have been possible.
I understand now that, I scored well in my twelfth standard to be out of home, to learn things by myself, to fill my knowledge repository, and to under go this tranformation so that I will be able to face my future challenges, in a better way.
Undergoing the tranformation, now I understand, Life: The puzzle that puzzles you more when you try to solve it. Life has its own way of teaching us values..!
According to many people who know me, I had always been screwing up things, when it could have been a very smooth travel, if I had acted the other way. I always kept thinking why I had taken a particular decision.
Whenever I look back, I feel that My life, was really a very enthusiastic, vivid one till I scored a very high score in my twelfth standard. Being one among the school toppers, I was suggested to join one of the leading institutions for my Integrated Masters in Software Engineering. From then, it had been a much stressed living, as I was away from my loved ones. I was surviving all alone. But from day one I was out of home, Life had been teaching me something or the other. As I had told earlier, I started learning from my experiences.
I adapted myself to a new society, made new friends, built new relationships, tried to hold up with them, succeeded in a few and failed in most, understood people’s perspective, communicated, learnt and kept updating my knowledge repository with all that I got. With these inputs, I established my unique identity, or what is called my Individuality. Day by day, I found that my identity was getting shaped up, with the new experiences I had and lessons I learnt from them. One fine day, I decided to use up the repository I created for myself. I decided to make myself someone a bit better than an Emotional person. This was a very painful decision that would affect lot of preset things and people in my life. I took this risk as I felt that it would be something which I will need in a long run. And I understand that, this is a journey of thousand miles and I have just taken a few steps. My transformation looks very minimal from outside. But it is a very troublesome and heavy assignment for a person like me, who breaks down after a certain amount of blockage. I am very grateful, to lot of people, who walked into my life in some instance, left an impression in me and helped/are helping me through the transformation. Without them, even the few steps which I took would not have been possible.
I understand now that, I scored well in my twelfth standard to be out of home, to learn things by myself, to fill my knowledge repository, and to under go this tranformation so that I will be able to face my future challenges, in a better way.
Undergoing the tranformation, now I understand, Life: The puzzle that puzzles you more when you try to solve it. Life has its own way of teaching us values..!
Friday, April 9, 2010
Hope u all like it..
TRUST
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
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NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
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RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
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PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
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BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home He stood in front of truck looked at the dents surprised but read “I love you Dad” & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
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NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered,"You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
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PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? "Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a nar row bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
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BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home He stood in front of truck looked at the dents surprised but read “I love you Dad” & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Monday, April 5, 2010
Enn Thaai..
For the past few days, I had been feeling very homesick. This poetry is the fruitful outcome of my loneliness..
I dedicate it to my mother..
Karuvaai uruvaagiya ennai..
Kannum karuthumai gavanithu..
Uruvaaki.. uyir udal thanthu..
Pettreduthaai nee..
Ennai pettraedutha thaai nee..
Kuruthiyai paalai ootinaai..
Gunam ullavalaai uruvaakinai..
Kalvi thanthaai.. Kalai thanthai..
Kaar irulilum.. koodave irunthaai..
Thaayai.. Thozhiyaai..
Anbu mazhai pozhinthai..
Konjam paduthavum seithaai..
Ulagam arinthu kolla..
Naan unnai pirinthu vanthaen..
Udalaal mattumae..
Uyirum ninaivum.. angu unnidame..
Neeyum naanum..
Pesaatha vaarthai illai..
Podaatha sandai illai..
Pirinthu irukkum innaerathil..
Avai mattumae ennudan..
Unnai enakku puriyavaitha ippirivukkum..
Ninaivil muzhuthaai thangivitta annaatkalukkum..
Manathaara naan nandri solgiraen..
Kaathu irukiraai nee..
Ennudan unn kaalam kazhithida..
Ulagam arinthidum enn aasayo..
Unn pirivin sogam munn payanatrathaai poivida..
Unnai thaedi naan varugiraen..
Thina padi.. Ninaivaal..
Seekirame unnai chaernthiduvaen.. Nijathil..
Kaathirukiraen.. Naanum..
Antha nann naalai yethir noki..
Tholai thoorathil nee.. Aanaalum..
Kann moodinaal kangalukkul nee..
Kannaadi uruvathilum nee.. Karuthilum nee..
Kaalam kanintha udan..
Kaatrai unnidam naan vanthiduvaen..
Pin unnai enn pillai pol potriduvaen..
Kaalam muzhuvathum unnai kaathiduvaen..
Karuvai.. Uyirai.. Karuthaai..
I dedicate it to my mother..
Karuvaai uruvaagiya ennai..
Kannum karuthumai gavanithu..
Uruvaaki.. uyir udal thanthu..
Pettreduthaai nee..
Ennai pettraedutha thaai nee..
Kuruthiyai paalai ootinaai..
Gunam ullavalaai uruvaakinai..
Kalvi thanthaai.. Kalai thanthai..
Kaar irulilum.. koodave irunthaai..
Thaayai.. Thozhiyaai..
Anbu mazhai pozhinthai..
Konjam paduthavum seithaai..
Ulagam arinthu kolla..
Naan unnai pirinthu vanthaen..
Udalaal mattumae..
Uyirum ninaivum.. angu unnidame..
Neeyum naanum..
Pesaatha vaarthai illai..
Podaatha sandai illai..
Pirinthu irukkum innaerathil..
Avai mattumae ennudan..
Unnai enakku puriyavaitha ippirivukkum..
Ninaivil muzhuthaai thangivitta annaatkalukkum..
Manathaara naan nandri solgiraen..
Kaathu irukiraai nee..
Ennudan unn kaalam kazhithida..
Ulagam arinthidum enn aasayo..
Unn pirivin sogam munn payanatrathaai poivida..
Unnai thaedi naan varugiraen..
Thina padi.. Ninaivaal..
Seekirame unnai chaernthiduvaen.. Nijathil..
Kaathirukiraen.. Naanum..
Antha nann naalai yethir noki..
Tholai thoorathil nee.. Aanaalum..
Kann moodinaal kangalukkul nee..
Kannaadi uruvathilum nee.. Karuthilum nee..
Kaalam kanintha udan..
Kaatrai unnidam naan vanthiduvaen..
Pin unnai enn pillai pol potriduvaen..
Kaalam muzhuvathum unnai kaathiduvaen..
Karuvai.. Uyirai.. Karuthaai..
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Relationships
Any relationship begins with a smile. When you see a person not having a smile, lend them one of yours. Any relationship becomes stronger and healthier with courtesy. It is always possible to maintain a courteous relationship with everyone in this society. Be it a person from our family, friends, colleagues or even strangers, courtesy enhances the goodness of the relationship. There are a few spells which can solve any mishap in a relationship. These terms are not as magical as we consider them to be. They are simple but their echoes are truly big as said by Mother Teresa. "Sorry", "Thank you" and "Please" are those abra-ca-dabra terms. The usage of these terms have become a part and parcel of our life. But the effect of these spells are felt the most only when they are uttered with courtesy at heart. Most of us feel that, courtesy is not important once a relationship gets established. We must be careful enough, as, at any point of the time, we must not take the other person for granted. Understanding the other person is the next important thing. What is necessary is co-existence and not survival of the fittest. We must be able to take forward the relationship, with the diversity we have in the form of habits and beliefs. Giving the other person, the space for existence and respecting their individuality, nourishes the relationship further. Trust is the framework upon which any relationship is built. Never break a promise and always admire the other person. Express your thoughts and be open-minded. Give an assurance that the person is always in your sight, be any situation for that matter. But let this not become monitoring. Simple acknowledgments and surprises can induce more value in the relationship leading to more longing for each other.
Relationships are Puzzling.. Not unresolvable..
Relationships are Puzzling.. Not unresolvable..
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